What if you could fall back in love, deeper than ever?

I know exactly what it’s like—you’ve tried everything under the sun to fix things. And yet, your relationship still feels more like a pair of dysfunctional roommates than a loving, passionate connection.

It’s frustrating, right?

Finally, there's something that's proven to work with real couples.

What if you could fall in love ALL OVER AGAIN?

You can create the passionate, connected, epic love you deserve with Relational Life Therapy.

Welcome to Legacy Love.

YOU'RE IN THE RIGHT PLACE.

You don’t want to just stay married.

You want to be deeply, wildly in love.

The average couple struggles for 7 years before getting help with conflict, sex, communication, or closeness.

Don't waste any more of your precious years settling for a "pretty good" marriage.

Start building your Legacy Love: the kind of connection that fuels your essential aliveness, deepens with every difficulty, and just keeps getting better with time.

client love

They made breakthroughs in just a few days

"I always have been a person that likes to learn and try new things and see what works and what doesn't. Your approach and your understanding and the way you have been there and supporting us has been working great. I feel really listened to and valued and I appreciate it.

It was amazing how things changed for the best in just a short time. I wonder why we never tried it before!”

-- Client in Seattle, WA after completing RLT intensive

YOUR MARRIAGE CAN BECOME THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF INSPIRATION, JOY, & PEACE

✦ Wake up each morning feeling excited to spend another day with your partner.

✦ Navigate the day's challenges together, knowing you can communicate openly and solve problems as a team.

✦ When conflicts arise, you solve them quickly and with respect.

✦ You both feel more desire for each other than you have in years and find your sexual connection with more ease and fun.

And the best part?

My clients start seeing changes in just a few sessions and find lasting results.

IMAGINE INSTEAD:

✦ You wake up each morning feeling close to your partner

✦ You navigate the day's challenges together, knowing you can communicate openly and solve problems as a team.

✦When conflicts arise, you solve them quickly and with respect

✦ You both feel more desire for each other than you have in years and find your sexual connection with ease

ALL OF THIS IS

POSSIBLE FOR YOU

And the best part? You can start seeing changes in just a couple of days—or you can ease into it over several weeks.

Either way, the results will last.

HOW I WORK & WHY IT'S SO DAMN EFFECTIVE

The truth is there are lots of people out there offering couples’ work. But you’re not looking for “just another therapist.”

You’re looking for an action-oriented, change-catalyzing coach who can see both of you clearly, hold you both accountable, and walk with you through the hard parts without flinching.

This is what to expect when you work with me.

REALTIME ACTION & BREAKTHROUGHS

I don’t just sit back and referee arguments; I run our sessions. Once we identify a pattern, I'll help you practice something new in real time, right there in the session. You won’t leave wondering what just happened or how to fix it once you’re home.

TRANSFORMATION IN WEEKS, NOT YEARS

I don’t believe in open-ended, slow-drip therapy where you talk for months or years, hoping something changes. We start intensively with a burst of 5-8 sessions close together so the bone-deep insights stick and your new habits actually take hold.

DIRECT, LOVING CONFRONTATION

I’m not neutral. I take sides: I align with relational health. That means if one of you is making a healthier in-the-now move, I’ll name it and back it. If one of you is reacting from an old pattern, I’ll point that out with compassion and clarity, too.

NO TIPTOEING AROUND THE HARD STUFF

My experience, training and insight are long AND wide. Very little gets past me. I will catch and address deeper dynamics and personal challenges that others may have missed it.

Why it works

Developed by master relationship mentor, Terry Real, Relational Life Therapy (RLT) breaks the rules of traditional therapy.

It's deep, it’s honest, and it doesn’t waste time.

12-STEP RECOVERY, SURRENDER, WILLINGNESS

Addiction and compulsion drive people to a level of desperation that paradoxically has the power to unlock huge growth. I experience the ongoing miracles of recovery in my own journey with food, alcohol, money, and betrayal trauma.

My skill at deploying the 12 steps allows even non-addict clients to benefit from this potent system for releasing resentment, embracing life on life's terms, and creating transformation beyond what we could have anticipated.

I have studied Kriya Yoga, brought to the United States by Paramahansa Yogananda in the 1920s. He authored Autobiography of a Yogi and helped translate Sutra-based and

Bhagavad Gita-based meditation and breathwork practices for non-monastic spiritual seekers.

Observing the mind is the foundation of reducing reactivity in our relationships. I teach my clients mindfulness practices that dovetail with any other religious or spiritual perspective.

Why it works

Relational Life Therapy (RLT) breaks the rules of traditional therapy.

It's deep, it’s honest, and it doesn’t waste time.

Why it works

Developed by master relationship mentor, Terry Real, Relational Life Therapy (RLT) breaks the rules of traditional therapy.

It's deep, it’s honest, and it doesn’t waste time.

DIRECT, LOVING CONFRONTATION

I’ll pinpoint the behaviors that are hurting your relationship and help you see how they’re playing out.

This is done with compassion, but it’s also real talk for both of you —no sugarcoating, no referreeing arguments. Just showing you EACH your role in the pattern.

Focus on Empowering Action, Not Just Talking

Relational Life Therapy isn’t about venting frustrations for the sake of it, just taking enough pressure off to get you to the next session.

Our aim is to equip you with practical tools that can transform your relationship long after the sessions are over.

Deep Transformation & Healing in Real-Time

Unlike many therapies where individuals work through their issues separately, Relational Life Therapy brings the work into the room with both partners present.

We work through deep emotional healing, right there in front of your partner. Watching your partner in their most vulnerable, healing moments creates a new level of empathy, understanding, and connection.

Fast, Focused Progress

While traditional therapy might stretch out over months or even years, Relational Life Therapy expects (and often delivers) dramatic improvement in a matter of days or weeks. You’ll notice the shift early on—whether we work intensively over 2.5 days or fit sessions into your schedule over several weeks.

We set a high bar, and I’ll guide you through meeting it with courage, honesty, compassion, and a goal-oriented focus that's rare in the therapy world.

12-STEP RECOVERY, SURRENDER, WILLINGNESS

I have studied Kriya Yoga, brought to the United States by Paramahansa Yogananda in the 1920s. He authored Autobiography of a Yogi and helped translate Sutra-based and

Bhagavad Gita-based meditation and breathwork practices for non-monastic spiritual seekers.

Observing the mind is the foundation of reducing reactivity in our relationships. I teach my clients mindfulness practices that dovetail with any other religious or spiritual perspective.

Your next step:

BOOK A FREE RELATIONAL LIFE THERAPY CONSULTATIOn CALL WITH ME

Let’s get into it!

I’ll listen to where you’re at in your relationship and help you figure out if this experience is right for you.

The consultation is totally free—no strings attached, just an honest conversation to see if we’re a good fit.

Whether you want to devote a weekend to a 2.5-day intensive or spread your transformation over 8-12 weeks, there is an option for everyone.

My experience,

your transformation

Michele Lisenbury Christensen, MA

Certified RLT Relational Coach and sex & relationship mentor.

I’m not some “(pretending-to-be-)perfect expert,” but a devoted student of love who’s in the trenches with you:

✦ I’ve been married for over 25 years. My husband and I have walked a path that has included plenty of struggle — from resentment and a dance of withdrawal/chasing, to broken trust, to rebuilding intimacy.

✦ I’ve lived through issues like addiction and infidelity in my family of origin and in my own marriage. These are tender, painful places and I won’t shy away from them with you.

✦ I’m a mom of two teens, a cat person falling in love with a dog (our house is lively!), and I love independent travel and hand-creating spaces and experiences. I understand the chaos and joy of building a real life together, not some idealized picket-fence version.

REAL HEALING & CHANGE

When you work with me, you’ll always know what we’re working toward and what action will move the dial.

✦ I’m a serious practitioner of tools from mindfulness, ecumenical spirituality, sacred sexuality, depth psychology, and somatics. I don’t just work with your head; I’ll help you regulate your nervous system, resource your best qualities, stay in your body, and relate from a more secure, centered place.

✦ I’ve also been an executive coach for 28+ years. That’s where I learned the unique challenges of ambitious, world-changing couples, and built a relentless focus on action and measurement. I help you set clear goals, track progress, and build habits that last.

BOOK A FREE RLT CONSULTATION CALL WITH MICHELE

WHERE YOU ARE RIGHT NOW:

THE LEGACY LOVE ARCHETYPES

Everyone shows up to this work in their own way. You may see yourself in one of these descriptions (or a mix of them). None are wrong; they’re just different starting points.

Each type of “Legacy Lover” has a different path to getting the most out of this work. Discover yours below:

My experience,

your transformation

Michele Lisenbury Christensen, MA

Hi, I'm Michele! I’m a Certified RLT Relational Coach and sex & relationship mentor.

From my personal pain and triumphs and 27 years of professional practice, I've learned what relationships actually need to thrive.

I help you stop settling for lukewarm love and start experiencing the deep, lasting connection you truly desire.

THE VISIONARY

“I know more is possible for us. Let’s get into it!”

You’re all in, eager, and want the fullest relationship you can have. You’re excited about growth. You may have even thought or decided “If I have to leave to live in full aliveness and connection, I will eventually do that.”

Traits of Visionaries:

✦ Are “all in”; committed to self-improvement and the relationship.

✦ Want to know their role in problems and do not blame the partner exclusively.

✦ Desire a fulfilling relationship, even if it means leaving if the partner is not equally committed.

✦ A Visionary may threaten the relationship’s integrity out of desperation.

How Visionaries approach working with me

“Oh my gosh, I love talking about ways that our relationship can be better. Let me at it!”

Traits of Pleasers:

✦ Wants things to be easy and quiet.

✦ Prioritizes their partner’s happiness over their own and feels unhappy when their partner is unhappy.

✦ Is willing to do what their partner wants, preferring politeness and surface harmony over conflict, even if it means lack of closeness.

THE PLEASER
“As long as you’re happy, I’m okay.”

You crave peace, harmony, and ease in your relationship. You’ll go out of your way to make your partner happy, sometimes at the expense of your own needs. You’d rather smooth things over than stir up conflict, even if it means feeling distant or unseen.

THE TROUBLESHOOTER
“If we can just figure out what’s wrong, we can fix this.”

You’re determined to understand what’s causing the disconnect. You analyze, question, and search for solutions—often hoping your partner will meet you in that effort. You can see where patterns need to shift, but it’s frustrating when your insight feels like blame or when your partner resists change.

Traits of Troubleshooters

✦ See issues in the relationship that stem from their partners’ patterns, which can be interpreted by the partner as accusatory, leading to defensiveness.

✦ Feel unable to continue in the relationship unless the partner changes.

✦ May be open to seeing their own part in the conflict, but doubts that their partner is willing to do the same.

Traits of Peacekeepers:

✦ Try to placate their partner or figure out the “rule book” or hidden expectations for the relationship.

✦ Can feel accused or blamed when faced with direct requests and confrontation, leading to defensiveness or avoidance.

✦ Struggle to see the relationship as a space for mutual needs and boundaries, instead acquiescing to their partner’s needs while resenting them for making the request.

THE PEACEKEEPER
“As long as you’re happy, I’m okay.”

You crave peace, harmony, and ease in your relationship. You’ll go out of your way to make your partner happy, sometimes at the expense of your own needs. You’d rather smooth things over than stir up conflict, even if it means feeling distant or unseen.

THE DOER
“I’ve tried everything, I just want this to work.”

You’re proactive and determined, willing to shoulder the effort to make things better. You shift your tone, try new strategies, and do whatever it takes to reconnect. But when your efforts don’t land, frustration builds sometimes boiling over into outbursts that leave you feeling guilty and exhausted.

Traits of Doers:

✦ Willing to take matters into their own hands.

✦ Try multiple approaches to get the partner on board (nice, conciliatory, subtle, direct).

✦ May eventually lose patience with their approaches failing and blow up at their partner.

✦ Feel regretful after outbursts, knowing it’s not constructive.

MAYBE YOU'RE WONDERING

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

How does Relational Life Therapy or RLT work?

Relational Life Therapy helps people to first reconnect to themselves—their feelings, needs, and desires—to build a stronger, more intimate connection with their partner.

I'll guide you through these three phases:

Step 1: Waking Up

RLT therapists use loving confrontation to wake clients up to their negative behaviors in a direct but compassionate way. We show clients the difficult truths about how they are harming their relationships in a way that builds trust rather than resistance.

Step 2: Healing & Transformation

Swiftly get to the root of negative behaviors, understand them, and overcome them. Unique to Relational Life Therapy, deep trauma and inner child work is done in the presence of the partner. This allows individuals to go deeper and couples to grow closer.

Step 3: Relational Skills For Life

Relational Life Therapy equips people with the powerful tools they need to continue building authentic, healthy relationships long after their time in therapy is over—the key to creating change that lasts.

(via relationallife.com. Read more about RLT here.)

How long does this process take?

I strongly recommend that all couples start with an intensive set of 5 sessions so we can build the traction that we need to see those big changes. I know it may sound too good to be true, but we can make 2-3 months' worth of progress in just a few days.

I am happy to help you decide which scheduling option is right for your desires and availability.

How do I get started?

Set up a consult call and tell me where you are now: It’s 100% free to meet with me and discuss whether this experience is right for you. People often find they gain insight and hope just from the conversation we have about their marriage on this one call.

Book your consultation call now.

Consultations are for both partners together. If you aren't sure how to get your partner enrolled, check out my podcast for some episodes you might invite your partner to listen to with you, especially Relationship Help that Works for Men or Why Therapy Didn't Get You There or Help Yourself Draw a Line.

“We’re too busy.”

That’s why we start with an intensive block. You’ll get more traction in a handful of sessions than you would in months of weekly therapy.

And you may find what many of my clients do: that when you get to the root of your relational patterns, you open up way more time and energy for both of you. It sounds counterintuitive, but that's why it's revolutionary.

“It’s embarrassing to tell someone our private stuff.”

Of course it is! In our culture, we're used to keeping all the messy and complicated stuff of marriages hidden away. So it's completely normal to not want to expose that part of yourself to a third person. Most people I work with start off feeling this way.

Let's try this: I’ll go first. I’ll share the messy, real parts of my own marriage so you know you’re not alone. I’ve also been told I’m the kind of person my clients want to tell their private stuff to because they feel the safety, love and respect with which I hold it.

“You will just take sides.”

No refereeing here. I’m not that interested in the details of your arguments. I show you (possibly for the first time!) what ACTUAL intimacy, closeness, and safety look like. Virtually no one learned this growing up! Then I take sides with THAT: what’s real and connected for the relationship.

“What if the verdict is that we shouldn’t be together?”

Simply put, I’m not in the business of issuing verdicts on couples. I’m a relentless possibilitarian (and I would be divorced instead of enjoying an amazing marriage if I weren’t!). I will help you appreciate what IS here and grieve what is not, and share frankly what I see about each of your relational patterns and efforts.