*Using a range of powerful diagnostic and transformative tools, Relational Life Therapy helps people to first reconnect to themselves—their feelings, needs, and desires—to build a stronger, more intimate connection with their partner.

Step 1: Waking Up

RLT therapists use loving confrontation to wake clients up to their negative behaviors in a direct but compassionate way. We show clients the difficult truths about how they are harming their relationships in a way that builds trust rather than resistance.

Step 2: Healing & Transformation

Swiftly get to the root of negative behaviors, understand them, and overcome them. Unique to Relational Life Therapy, deep trauma and inner child work is done in the presence of the partner. This allows individuals to go deeper and couples to grow closer.

Step 3: Relational Skills For Life

Relational Life Therapy equips people with the powerful tools they need to continue building authentic, healthy relationships long after their time in therapy is over—the key to creating change that lasts.

(*via relationallife.com. Read more about RLT here.) Terry Real is a veteran family therapist, the author of several best-selling books on relationship and the ways patriarchy has harmed men's emotional health, and the creator of the Relational Life Therapy Model. Working with Terry transformed my own marriage a decade ago, which inspired me to add his modality to my toolkit. His media appearances and features often draw people to find someone who uses his methodology and can bring the same incisive, kind-but-direct approach to bear on their marriage.

I'm that person, with the training, the 28 year career, and the 25 year marriage to relate, to guide, and to lovingly confront the not-so-relational parts of both partners. I am certified in RLT and lead couples' Bootcamps utilizing Terry's methods as well.

I strongly recommend that all couples start with an intensive set of sessions so we can build the traction that we need to see those big changes. We can schedule over 2.5 days or if that's not possible, we get started with 2-3 sessions per week. Within 5-8 sessions, couples create a new foundation for the way they relate and communicate.

I am happy to help you decide which scheduling option is right for you.

Depending on your desires and schedule, you can start see results in your relationship in anywhere from 3 days to 8-12 weeks of working with me. You will then continue to build on your results either on your own or with my support and watch your communication and intimacy grow over the next 6 months.

A Relational Life Therapy Intensive: 3 Days - 3 Weeks

I know it may sound too good to be true, but we can make 2-3 months' worth of progress in just a few days. We will meet 5 times over 2-3 days, for 90 minutes to 2 hours each time. 

We work in a very specific focused way, where you allow me to guide the conversation to really get at the root of your struggle and pinpoint its source, then create a new pattern in each of you that builds the relationship you really want.

Offered virtually or in-person

Relational Life Therapy Coaching

Whether as follow up to an intensive or as a regular occurrence, we can spread our sessions out over several weeks or months, giving you and your partner more time to digest and practice each step of the journey so you can break out of the cycle of conflict and create lasting change in your marriage & sex life.

Offered virtually or in-person

Relational Life Therapy Bootcamp

In this 2-day "bootcamp," I'll teach you everything you wish you knew about how relationships ACTUALLY grow from honeymoon phase to lifelong love and how to show up for BOTH yourself and your partner every day without losing touch with either. I host these 2-day workshops in the juiciest, most fun locations I can. Drop me a line if there's somewhere you'd love to spend 2 days with me and then the rest of the week with your beloved (and your kids, if you like!  We'll arrange for kids' activities for the workshop times if there's need for that)!  Maui?  My hometown of Anchorage?  NYC?  Let's do this!

Offered in-person only

Set up a consult call and tell me where you are now: It’s 100% free to meet with me and discuss whether this experience is right for you. People often find they gain insight and hope just from the conversation we have about their marriage on this one call.

Book your consultation call now.

Consultations are for both partners together. If you aren't sure how to get your partner enrolled, check out my podcast for some episodes you might invite your partner to listen to with you, especially Relationship Help that Works for Men or Why Therapy Didn't Get You There or Help Yourself Draw a Line.