Is your relationship good, but you know it could be GREAT?
Or have you known for 5 years (or more?)
that your fights and silences,
sexual dry spells and loneliness are a problem?
The Relational Life Therapy Intensive is fast.
It builds skills. It creates the change you need
for your relationship to be as good as you know it could be.
When you’ve decided to face and transform the patterns that create pain and frustration in your relationship...
And you’re ready to do the work…
And you’re also eager to get to the rewards as quickly as possible....
It's time for the 3-Day Private
Relational Life Transformation Retreat
Is your relationship good, but you know it could be GREAT?
Or have you known for 5 years (or more?)
that your fights and silences,
sexual dry spells and loneliness are a problem?
The Relational Life Therapy Intensive is fast.
It builds skills.
It creates the change you need for your relationship to be as good as you know it could be.
When you’ve decided to face and transform the patterns that create pain and frustration in your relationship...
And you’re ready to do the work…
And you’re also eager to get to the rewards as quickly as possible....
It's time for the 3-Day Private
Relational Life Transformation Retreat
RESPECTED & SUPPORTED
MAYBE YOU'VE BEEN HOPING IT WOULD GET BETTER?
OR YOU'VE ALREADY TRIED OTHER THERAPY, COUNSELING, BOOKS, OR WORKSHOPS?
BEFORE WORKING WITH ME, CLIENTS SAY THINGS LIKE:
"We've tried couples' counseling, but didn't gain enough lasting change."
"We do great in other areas of our lives, but one aspect of our marriage (often sex, conflict, keeping agreements, mental labor, and/or trust) is NOT working."
"I don't know how much longer I can keep trying."
"I don't want to get divorced, but this pain is starting to erode my sense of liking him/her.
"We've come through addiction, infidelity, pornography abuse, or other betrayals of trust. We need help to rebuild."
"Other people tell us they envy and admire our relationship but they don't see the hard parts of it... And we know there's so much more possible."
"Our relationship is really good, but we want EPIC and we haven't found anyone who can take us to the next level."
"We need someone with very high levels of both confidentiality and skill."
I help couples create powerful transformations in their relationship, alchemizing distance, conflict, hurt, and anger into closeness, playfulness, turn-on, and joy. I've done that since 2010, when my executive coaching clients began saying "can you work with me & my spouse? You're the one I trust to go there."
When we meet weekly, results usually appear within a matter of 2-3 months.
Bi-weekly, we can get to solid transformations within 6 months or so.
But the couples who are ready for a breakthrough NOW?
They gird their loins and jump into an intensive, dedicating 3 days to establishing the foundation of seeing themselves clearly, understanding the patterns both partners participate in that cause harm, and identifying the roots of each person’s behaviors so they can change them.
I know: It's kind of scary. I promise, though: I will hold you well, make it fun, and relieve you of so much internal pressure.
After these 3 days, the relationship is never the same. We follow up with skills work and new habits to give you rockstar relating skills you’ll use for the rest of your lives, but the most difficult and essential work is done.
If you don't have 3 days to dedicate, we can also complete an intensive within 2 months by working together 1-2 times per week.
Learn to say what you feel, want, and think such that your partner can hear you and respond, rather than react.
Learn to dissolve the obstacles to your feeling safe, open, and available for closeness, emotionally and physically.
Learn to honor both partners' needs & contributions around all the physical, mental, and emotional labor that creates your home & life.
I help couples create powerful transformations in their relationship, alchemizing distance, conflict, hurt, and anger into closeness, playfulness, turn-on, and joy.
When we meet weekly, results usually appear within a matter of 2-3 months.
Bi-weekly, we can get to solid transformations within 6 months or so.
But the couples who are ready for a breakthrough NOW?
They gird their loins and jump into an intensive, dedicating 3 days to establishing the foundation of seeing themselves clearly, understanding the patterns both partners participate in that cause harm, and identifying the roots of each person’s behaviors so they can change them.
After these 3 days, the relationship is never the same. We follow up with skills work and new habits to give you rockstar relating skills you’ll use for the rest of your lives, but the most difficult and essential work is done.
Learn to say what you feel, want, and think such that your partner can hear you and respond, rather than react.
Learn to dissolve the obstacles to your feeling safe, open, and available for closeness, emotionally and physically.
Learn to honor both your contributions and needs around all the physical, mental, and emotional labor that creates your home & life.
I help couples create Legacy Love - the kind of connection that gets better over time - so they never have to settle for lukewarm love or get stuck in the roommate zone.
I am a master relationship coach and sacred sexuality educator. I have been a leadership coach since 1997 and created The 12 Elements of Power framework for integrating masculine and feminine power, which I have delivered to corporations, individuals and couples since 2004. I’ve practiced meditation since 1985 and Kriya yoga since 2002. I am a certified yoga and meditation teacher.
Around 2009, my leadership coaching clients began asking me to work with them and their partners. We applied the accountability, outcome-focus and clarity I honed as a corporate coach to optimize the communication, partnership, and chemistry in their relationships. Having learned how masterful leaders can create magnificent relationships, I’ve since integrated the best tools of Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and somatic/cognitive rewiring into my couples' coaching.
I am a walking testament to the power of meditation, 12-step recovery, relational recovery, and integrating masculine and feminine power to expose, integrate and alchemize conditioned patterns. My work is informed by life experiences including a 26-year relationship, 15+ years of parenting, neurodivergence, blended family dynamics, loss of my father at 19, sexual trauma, addiction, infidelity and intimacy avoidance.
My husband Kurt and I have studied sacred sexuality since 1999.
We’ve pioneered the Couples’ Stroking Practice, a meditative erotic touch modality, since 2010. We provide holistic sexuality education for teens and help parents skillfully mentor their kids’ relational development.
What hasn’t killed our love has made us stronger.
I help couples create Legacy Love - the kind of connection that gets better over time - so they never have to settle for lukewarm love or get stuck in the roommate zone.
I am a master relationship coach and sacred sexuality educator. I have been a leadership coach since 1997 and created The 12 Elements of Power framework for integrating masculine and feminine power, which I have delivered to corporations, individuals and couples since 2004. I’ve practiced meditation since 1985 and Kriya yoga since 2002. I am a certified yoga and meditation teacher.
Around 2009, my leadership coaching clients began asking me to work with them and their partners. We applied the accountability, outcome-focus and clarity I honed as a corporate coach to optimize the communication, partnership, and chemistry in their relationships. Having learned how masterful leaders can create magnificent relationships, I’ve since integrated the best tools of Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and somatic/cognitive rewiring into my couples' coaching.
I am a walking testament to the power of meditation, 12-step recovery, relational recovery, and integrating masculine and feminine power to expose, integrate and alchemize conditioned patterns. My work is informed by life experiences including a 26-year relationship, 15+ years of parenting, neurodivergence, blended family dynamics, loss of my father at 19, sexual trauma, addiction, infidelity and intimacy avoidance.
My husband Kurt and I have studied sacred sexuality since 1999.
We’ve pioneered the Couples’ Stroking Practice, a meditative erotic touch modality, since 2010. We provide holistic sexuality education for teens and help parents skillfully mentor their kids’ relational development.
What hasn’t killed our love has made us stronger.
Even if you've lost hope it's possible
I know what it's like to despair of ever getting where I wanted to go in my relationship.
And I know what it is to create an earned intimacy that lifts me and fuels me, body, mind, and spirit. You deserve the same.
In the past 27 years, I've coached literally thousands of people to create the lives they desired,
and I've helped more than 500 couples create their next-level love.
Feel stuck in old patterns despite their best efforts to love one another well.
Are navigating the aftermath of infidelity, so they can catalyze the pain into a better marriage - or simply decide whether they want to stay together.
Have “tried everything” to “get through to” their partner, but don't feel really heard, and are afraid they will either give up on the relationship or lose themselves by staying.
Have done a lot of work on their marriage, their sexual connection, or both, and still feel like there’s a block or limit that holds them back from the love, passion, and ease they sense they could have.
Are navigating nuances such as a blended family, a high public profile, or other factors and who need confidential, highly personalized, more sophisticated handling of their unique challenges and opportunities.
Have been affected by addiction issues and are now navigating love, sex, and life with one or both partners in recovery and want knowledgeable guidance and potent transformation with an addiction-savvy approach that’s not limited to just “getting by.”
Know their relationship is already better than most and who haven't found other relationship guides who had the lived experience or professional chops to take them to the next level.
Have desires, capabilities, or power that render them "too hot to handle" for other therapists or coaches and who want to be potently handled by someone who can match their energy, intelligence, and liberation.
Are ready to accomplish in 3 days what would take take 6 months or longer with another practitioner.
Want to step out of everyday life and immerse themselves in beauty, peace, and care to support the transformation they are creating.
Here's how I can help:
It’s 100% free to meet with me and discuss your desires and whether this experience is right for you.
We will meet 5 times over 3 days, for 1.5-2 hours each time (Or 1-3 times per week over a 2-8 week period).
We work in a very specific, focused way, where you allow me to guide the conversation. We quickly get at the root of your struggle, then create a new pattern in each of you that builds the relationship you really want.
On your own using skill-building videos as a bonus of your retreat, or with additional follow-up sessions if you choose, you'll watch your communication and intimacy grow over the next 6 months and deepen forever.
The work we do in this retreat is a process pioneered over 40+ years by renowned couples' therapist Terrence Real. He calls it Relational Life Therapy (RLT) but also trains coaches, including me, in this powerful, efficient methodology.
Building deeper, more intimate connections with ourselves and others is at the heart of RLT. This singular, integrative therapy can profoundly and permanently transform individuals by helping them forge fiercely intimate connections in their relationships.
RLT educates as much as it heals to equip people with the lifelong tools to live fully-connected, fearlessly authentic lives.
This process goes against many of the assumptions and "rules" of traditional therapy to go deep quickly and help clients make rapid and significant changes. As it says on the RLT website, "RLT therapists are real, open, and honest. We set the bar high for our clients. We expect rapid, dramatic change, and to a remarkable degree, we get it."
Terry says, "There’s a new way we can relate: changing how we see ourselves in relation to our partner. It involves changing some fundamental aspects of our identity, even changing how we think of ourselves to begin with, but doing this is vital to creating meaningful connections with others."
How the RLT Relational Recovery Process Works:
Healing Relationships Swiftly and Permanently
I use a set of powerful diagnostic and transformative tools to help people to first reconnect to themselves—their feelings, needs, and desires—so they can then build a stronger, more intimate connection with their partner.
Step 1: Waking Up
I use loving clarity to help you awaken to seeing your negative behaviors and their cost, in a direct but compassionate way. You’ll come to trust me not as a non-confrontational “safe” space but as someone who’s TRULY trustworthy because I can show you exactly what you do that doesn’t work. I’ll accompany each of you as you face the difficult truths about how you contribute to the patterns that harm your relationships - with your partner and beyond.
Step 2: Healing & Transformation
We quickly identify the root of negative behaviors, understand them, and overcome them. You’ll grow closer because you’ll each do deep personal work with your partner witnessing. This gives you both more empathy and the clarity to stop generational patterns of pain and numbness. You’ll gain depth as individuals and closeness as a couple.
Step 3: Relational Skills For Life
You’ll learn and practice powerful tools that will equip each of you to continue building authentic, healthy relationships long after your time with me is over, which is why the changes will last and deepen, rather than wearing off. Sometimes, we’re able to start this step during the intensive. Regardless of how much skill-building you do during the intensive, follow-up sessions will focus on establishing these skills as your new default patterns of relating. You will replace the old patterns we uncovered and released during the intensive with new skills that will facilitate full-respect living.
This intensive can take place face-to-face in beautiful Seattle or from the comfort and privacy of your own space - or a hotel or rental home in your area - via Zoom. In some instances, I can join you in-person at another location of your choosing, if you cover the costs of my time and travel.
The process works surprisingly well virtually, but you will need to give yourselves space after our sessions, rather than jumping right back into work or family.
The details on this experience:
This intensive is a private custom retreat for you and your partner, facilitated by Michele
The experience will take place over 3-4 days in Seattle or a mutually agreed upon location (with additional investment to cover my travel)
With a clear agreement to help you “retreat” and focus, this experience can also be guided virtually via Zoom
You will receive a pre-retreat package of sensual and pragmatic materials to enrich your retreat experience and to help you deepen your skills afterward
Following your retreat, you'll receive monthly skill-building trainings and voice check-ins for 6 months to help you create Legacy Love
The investment is $5,597 per couple (or individual, if you engage in this work on your own).
This free online assessment will give you a clear picture of what's happening between you and where you can focus to expand your satisfaction, quickly, whether or not you choose a couples' retreat now.
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